Let go of fitting into boxes. You can believe in the power of mercury retrograde and Excel, you can connect with Spirit and still appreciate the value of control trials, you can enjoy Neil deGrasse Tyson and be into Tarot cards, you can believe in chakras and antibiotics, you can support others while being supported, and you can have moments of self-doubt and still feel like a sexy baddass other times!!! We exist on a spectrum and are intricate beautiful enigmas. Own all your passions and let your curousity take the lead.
“ It’s mating season" my girlfriend mentioned, now that parkas were finally being traded for bare legs with the hotter weather. She was encouraging me to write a post on dating. Hmm…where to begin?!. Back when I got divorced, I had originally felt like my dating muscles had atrophied to jello. But now I'm grateful that my curiosity for what’s possible has long overshadowed my shyness and fear of rejection. So this post is to encourage those who deep down want to bare their legs again but are feeling hesitant about jumping back into the dating scene after a break-up.
As a way to get more authentic, I wrote the piece below on what it means to 'honour the bitch within' me. The best part about this exercise were the unexpected conversations I had with women about using the word ‘bitch’. ... It means you’re going to honour all of you. You’re going to use your voice, appreciate your sexual essence...
Cascading through a minimalist white house. Faceless creatures are clamouring over one another, reaching out for their vampire feast -- me. I’m panicking and dodging their intention through cloud-coloured empty rooms. Every move feeling like a dead end. Spotting some exposed beams, I matrix my butt on top of one and feel safer, but doubtful as to how long I’ve got. Having watched the film The Faculty during a thirty-something going on thirteen gab fest with friends the night before, my REM sleep went to town that night on the horror genre. Substituting vampires for (spoiler alert) aliens the tone of my dream echoed the need to escape threatening humanly-challenged thingies.
Like you, I don’t know what’s going to happen in so many areas of my life…in business, romantic love, or what to have for dinner later. It’s a wide open question mark of possibilities, potentials, and doubts. I stand in a question mark, sometimes feeling everything at once. My “f$ck it all” thoughts careen into my “I’m gonna do it!” days, and elbow into moments like “uhmm, what am I doing?”.....There are lots of tools to work with when future-tripping but intentionally adding more joy to the diet is one that bears repeating.